Hey there friends! Whilst I debated doing your typical Valentines Day ‘date ideas’ or ‘gift ideas’, I felt as though that has already been covered enough and to be honest I’m not overly fussed about Valentines Day, hence why I decided to write about something a little bit different… Something that is quite often enhanced around particular holidays and that’s loneliness. I want to show you that being alone doesn’t have to be lonely. In fact, I want to show you how you can use it to your advantage.
Being lonely is a feeling I’ve known well. Spending a couple of my teenage years ill and often confined to my bed, as well being shy and never feeling like I quite fit in, I became very familiar with this strange feeling of loneliness. But do you know what? I turned it into something good. I would even go as far to say that I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for all that alone time.
Firstly, alone time is essential for growth. You need time by yourself to sit and reflect on you and your goals/dreams. Often when we have many people in our life we can easily lose focus on ourselves and our direction. So, what are things you like about yourself? What are things you’d like to improve on? How can your thoughts and actions help? In what direction would you like your life to go in? What are your next moves to get you where you want to be? Spend this time to really get to know yourself and improve your life, whether it be your thoughts, actions, circumstances or environment. Start working towards living the life you have always dreamt of. Be aware of your thoughts, habits and actions. Create better thoughts, habits and actions. Organise your life. Set aside time to create a healthier body and mind. Make your environment cosy and uplifting. Pick up a new hobby you’ve always wanted to try. Improve your skills and talents. Make room for the right people to enter your life. Work towards your dream job. Whatever you do, fulfil your own life, because no one else can do it for you. Life can be amazing, even when you’re ‘alone’.
Sooner or later you’re going to have plenty of people in your life that you care about and although that’s also amazing, it means you’ll have more responsibilities and less time to yourself. So, relish in your alone time and make it count. Enjoy your own company and become your own best friend. I know it’s kinda cheesy, but you really are the longest relationship you’ll ever have with anyone. Nurture that relationship and make it the best it can be. And guess what? A healthy relationship with yourself is only going to attract healthier relationships with other people.
And when you do have down days, try to believe that everything happens for a reason. Life ebbs and flows. Some phases of life will include feeling or being alone, but that doesn’t have to be bad. You’ve been gifted time to spend working on yourself and that’s often where the real magic happens.
So, if you’ve been feeling a little lonely, I got ya’. I know how sucky it can be. I also know how wonderful it can be once you flip perspectives. So give it a try, you won’t be disappointed. Sending you all love! xx